Thursday, 5 December 2019

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EVENT: Hour Of Worship 2019 with MIKE MUZIK




MIKE MUZIK AND THE CHRIST INSPIRATIONAL VESSELS LIVE IN CONCERT 003 "HOUR OF WORSHIP 2019"

*THE REVIVAL EDITION*
Theme : *TURN TO ME*
Date : 27TH DEC 19
Time : Red Carpet 12pm | Main 1pm
Venue : CAC Agbala itura District Headquarters, Olodo Garage, Ibadan
       

With joy we invite you to our concert, .HOUR OF WORSHIP {H.O.W19} the revival edition, we want to call on the power of the holy ghost.joining  force with the angels and the hosts of Heaven., so as to revive the days of old and revive the burning fire of the Holy Ghost in our generation and generations to come. We don’t need youths that craves after money, fame, power, lust and things of the world. We need youths that will thirst for the person of the Holy Ghost and diligently seek the love and presence of God with the whole of their heart, so we can become sons and daughters of the last days. 
We the above crew plan to send OUTREACH to DIFFERENT CHURCHES AND CHRISTIAN DENOMINATION so together we can ask for the POWER AND AUTHORITY OF THE HOLY GHOST through HYMNS and SONGS. We need to UNITE as ONE BODY and TOGETHER CRY out to God,especially for the YOUTHS of NIGERIA. We need REVIVAL.
 
It beyond music
reviving souls for the kingdom
Come and meet with holy ghost and  not with man 
Come and encounter the rushing wind of pentecost
 We are the Sons and daughters of the last days.

*#HOW19*
*#THEREVIVAL*
*#TTM*
*#HOLYGHOSTGANG*
 *#SONS&DAUGHTERS*

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Tuesday, 3 December 2019

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SIGNS OF MARITAL IMMATURITY .



1. Rejecting food. 
When there is an issue. This is a sign of immaturity, whether you gave the money for the food preparation or not, you should eat except you are immature. Do not allow any issue to linger unnecessarily, though some women can be really troublesome. 
2. Telling your wife severally that you are the head. 
This constant reminder is very unnecessary. Even when she disobeys or disrespects you, she still knows you are the head. Screaming it daily may not really change anything. Don't become a nagging husband to prove your headship. Women hates it when a man nags as much as a man does when a woman nags. 
3. Issuing threats. 
Beating a woman, verbally abusing her, issuing threats of divorce or bragging about taking another wife does not make you the man. Remember that empty barrels makes the loudest noise. Naturally your strength lies in your ability to tame your tongue and control your fist. Develop self control before controlling others. 
4. Reporting your wife to friends and family members.
When there is an offence, correct by talking things through. You do not score a valid point by going about talking to friends or family members. You can rather talk to trained along this line or people called into marriage counseling. Don't keep talking to people about her mistakes, they will see her from that perspective and you are selling her cheap, you can not redeem her no matter the amount. 
5. Keeping malice
It is very interesting to know that there are men that keep malice with their wives. Even some men nag isn't that funny? Some will stand and abuse and call their wives names even in public. When you engage in all these, you seem more like a big - boy rather than a man. This can turn your home into a den of insults and confrontations. There is a limit to human endurance no matter how quiet she is. 
6. Not helping with house chores. 
It is not a bad thing for a man to help with the house chores most of the time. But the woman must Know that it is the sole responsibility of the woman to carry out the house chores and manage the home whether or not she's a full time house wife. A man lending a hand is not a bad idea. Sitting to watch the TV or read the papers when there is so much to do not caring how stressful the day had been for her or how hectic taking care of him and the children can be can only increase pressure in the home. 
Occasionally checking on your wife while she works is a form of encouragement. Your children picks certain ideals from it especially your male children. Appreciation is also very important a word of thank you to your wife can help to boost her morale. Giving a helping hand with bathing, feeding and changing of diaper for your babies shows a whole lot of care for your children. 
Real men are pillars of support for his wife and not a sauce of depression. Go be a doer.

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Monday, 2 December 2019

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PERSONAL HEALTH : The Crisis in Youth Suicide


Too often, suicide attempts and deaths by suicide, especially among the young, become family secrets that are not investigated and dealt with in ways that might protect others from a similar fate.

By Jane E. Brody

The death of a child is most parents’ worst nightmare, one made even worse when it is self-inflicted. This very tragedy has become increasingly common among young people in recent years. And adults — parents, teachers, clinicians and politicians — should be asking why and what they can do to prevent it.

In October, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reported that after a stable period from 2000 to 2007, the rate of suicide among those aged 10 to 24 increased dramatically — by 56 percent — between 2007 and 2017, making suicide the second leading cause of death in this age group, following accidents like car crashes.

“We’re in the middle of a full-blown mental health crisis for adolescents and young adults,” said Jean M. Twenge, research psychologist at San Diego State University and author of the book “iGen,” about mental health trends among those born since 1995. “The evidence is strong and consistent both for symptoms and behavior.”

Along with suicides, since 2011, there’s been nearly a 400 percent increase nationally in suicide attempts by self-poisoning among young people. “Suicide attempts by the young havequadrupled over six years, and that is likely an undercount,” said Henry A. Spiller, director of the Central Ohio Poison Center, who called the trend “devastating.” “These are just the ones that show up in the E.R.”

Had any other fatal or potentially fatal condition leapfrogged like this, the resulting alarm would surely have initiated a frantic search for its cause and cure. But too often suicide attempts and deaths by suicide, especially among the young, become family secrets that are not investigated and dealt with in ways that might protect others from a similar fate.

“We’re at a point now where this issue really can’t be ignored,” said John P. Ackerman, clinical psychologist and coordinator of suicide prevention at Nationwide Children’s Hospital in Columbus, Ohio. “We invest heavily in crisis care, which is the most expensive and least effective means of preventing suicide.”

He proposed instead that more time and money be spent “on identifying kids who are most vulnerable, helping them respond effectively to stress, and teaching them what they can do in a crisis. And we need to start early, in the elementary grades. We haven’t even begun to use the resources that we know work. We have to be proactive.”

In Ohio, he said, “about 40,000 students have been screened for depression and suicide risk, and hundreds of kids have been linked to services. It’s not putting ideas in their heads to ask directly whether they’ve had thoughts of suicide or dying. That doesn’t increase their risk. Rather, it’s relieving. You actually reduce the risk if you help kids talk through these difficult feelings.”

Although no one can say with certainty why suicide has become such a crisis among the young, experts cite several factors that parents, schools and others might be able to modify or control. Dr. Spiller, for example, attributes the rise in suicide attempts largely to the effects of social media and how teens and young adults communicate with their peers.

“Kids now never disconnect,” he said. “They’re connected 24/7. They go to bed with their smartphones. It may be cyberbullying. It may be envy. Maybe many things are going on here.”

One thing the research didn’t find was a link of teen suicides to the opioid crisis. Instead, in school-age adolescents, it found a rise in suicide attempts during school months — September until December, then again January through May — that doesn’t happen in adults.

The rise in attempted and completed suicides by young people correlates directly with their access to smartphones, Dr. Twenge said. “Developmentally, these ages have always been difficult, but that’s been taken to the next level by smartphones, social media and the constant pressure to be online.”

“Eighty-five percent of teens are looking at social media,” she said. “There’s less face-to-face time spent with friends. It’s now the norm to sit home Saturday night on Instagram. Who’s popular and who’s not is now quantifiable by how many people are following you. Kids are spending as much as eight hours a day on social media, where there’s a lot of negativity, competition and jockeying for status and unfiltered access to sites that tell them how to harm themselves.”

Dr. Ackerman, who noted that “young brains are less adept at dealing with complex situations,” likewise believes social media plays an important role in the suicide crisis among the young. But he sees the problem more broadly and said there is a need for schools to help counter it. Staff can be trained and screening done within schools, he said.

“Ultimately it’s a combination of economic, social and technological factors that come together along with family and school issues, and kids are less equipped to tackle these problems,” he said.

Sleep, or rather, not enough of it, is another issue undermining the resilience of today’s teens.

Several studies have found a link between “problematic internet and social media use and sleep disturbance among youth,” and that “these associations contribute to depressive symptoms in this group,” Dr. Twenge and co-authors reported in the Journal of Abnormal Psychology.

“Two surveys have shown that teens are not sleeping enough, and having a smartphone in the bedroom results in less sleep and poorer quality sleep,” she said. “It’s too tempting to stay up late looking at the phone, and the blue light it emits keeps the brain thinking it’s daytime. Almost everything done on devices is psychologically stimulating. The brain can’t slow down and relax.”

Her advice: “Avoid looking at devices within an hour of bedtime, and buy an alarm clock. It’s not the technology itself that’s the problem — it’s how we use it. We have to use it more mindfully.”

She urges parents to set reasonable limits about kids’ use of technology. Setting such limits is “not only good for kids, but they appreciate it in the long run,” she said. She noted that modern smartphones have parental control systems built in and parents can set kids’ phones to shut down at 9 p.m.

Experts also urge parents to check in with their teenage children regularly, asking how they’re feeling and whether they ever think about dying. “As early as elementary school, children can have responsible conversations about suicide,” Dr. Ackerman said. “We need to prepare young people to talk about their emotions early in life.”

He and others also emphasized the importance of controlling access to possible means of suicide, which they note is most often an impulsive act. Youngsters should never have uncontrolled access to guns, drugs or other substances that can result in a fatal overdose.

If you are having thoughts of suicide, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 (TALK). You can find a list of additional resources at SpeakingOfSuicide.com/resources​.

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Health : How mental health during pregnancy affects the baby



- Jyoti Madhusoodanan

Health, athleticism, intelligence, illness: The traits that make us who we are come from the interplay between the genes we inherit and the environment we're exposed to. And those environmental effects begin even before we are born. Thanks to long-running studies that track offspring from womb to adulthood, we know that smoking during pregnancy is linked to low birth weight, that drinking alcohol can cause heart defects or joint disorders, that a bad diet raises the odds of a child being an obese as an adult.

But what about a mother's mental health? Until recently, researchers thought that this had an effect only after birth — that if a mother's poor emotional well-being led to neglectful or abusive parenting, it increased her child's risk of psychological disorders such as depression, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, anxiety, or other conditions. But a woman's mental health is an integral part of her fetus' environment, explains Catherine Monk, a medical psychologist at Columbia University in New York. And a burgeoning body of evidence shows that a pregnant woman's psychological health can influence that of her child's.

Monk began working with pregnant patients early in her clinical career, and she has spent more than 20 years researching the effects of maternal stress, depression, and anxiety on offspring. She recently coauthored a review in the Annual Review of Clinical Psychology describing the mechanisms by which a mother's mental state may shape her fetus' developing brain.

Monk spoke with Knowable about the evidence so far, and why she sees this link between a woman and her child's mental health as a prime opportunity for preventive care — and not a reason to blame Mom. This conversation has been edited for length and clarity.

How did you first try to study whether a woman's mental state can affect her fetus?

We gave pregnant women in the lab a color-word matching test. It's a very standard cognitive challenge — when faced with it, we all get a little bit nervous and show an increase in heart rate and blood pressure. We thought we'd see the fetuses respond with a change in heart rate too, but we didn't see anything statistically significant for these women when their results were pooled.

We had also gathered information about how anxious these women were, using their responses to a standard questionnaire. When we separated the data by low-anxious versus high-anxious groups, we saw that the fetuses of women who were not very anxious didn't show a heart rate change at all. But fetuses of women who were more anxious had an increased heart rate in response to the stressful task. So that suggested that these fetuses, although they're receiving similar sounds and other stimuli from their mothers as the other group, are responding differently.

If a fetus' heart rate changes more in response to cues from its mom, how does that correlate with a greater risk of anxiety and ADHD?

In a subsequent study, we found that a reactive heart rate in fetuses of mothers with prenatal depression was associated with less connectivity between two regions in the brain known as the amygdala and prefrontal cortex. The amygdala is a part of brain circuits involved in regulating emotion, in detecting and experiencing stress responses. The prefrontal cortex is involved in the control of behavior, speech, and reasoning, and can dampen the amygdala's reactivity to stimuli.

So the idea is that even early on, babies of more depressed mothers have less of a connection in their brain between the amygdala and the prefrontal cortex, which may be an early sign of less cognitive control over emotion. Other labs are showing similar links between mood disturbance in pregnant women and this dampening-down of connections between these two parts of the brain. It's also something we see in experimental studies with animals.

How does a mom's mental state of anxiety or depression get communicated to the fetus?

We have some pieces of the puzzle. Hormones are one important mechanism. We know from animal studies that exposure to atypically high levels of the steroid stress hormone cortisol in the uterus is associated with more activity in the offspring's amygdala after birth. These animals show more anxiety-like behavior.

There's a lot of data from human studies as well. For example, in one study of women waiting to undergo amniocentesis, researchers found that if you compare the level of cortisol in a woman's plasma to that in the amniotic fluid — that's what the fetus is exposed to — there's less correlation in women who are less anxious. But there's a high correlation in more anxious women. This suggests that something about maternal anxiety is associated with the placenta functioning differently, which can affect how much cortisol reaches the amniotic fluid. That's one of the challenges with this research: It may not matter exactly how much cortisol is in the woman's circulation, but what level the fetus is exposed to via the placenta and amniotic fluid.

Several groups, including ours, have found that there's an enzyme in the placenta whose role is to deactivate cortisol as it crosses the placenta and this enzyme's functioning varies based on women's anxiety levels. In humans, maternal anxiety seems to be associated with a "turning off" of the gene that controls this protective enzyme so that more cortisol reaches the developing fetus. This exposure to atypically high cortisol levels is associated with decreased nerve cell formation and differences in how neurons migrate and form connections, all of which can contribute to increased risk of anxiety or ADHD.

Other groups have shown that changes in hormonal regulation because of these placental receptors being switched off are associated with alterations in kids' behavior, such as being more anxious. We're now starting to connect these dots.

Are other mechanisms at work too?

Stress can affect regulation of the immune system. Inflammatory proteins known as cytokines seem to influence how a neuron grows and forms connections, and also which neurons survive and how they develop. The role of the immune system in brain development is really just beginning to be uncovered.

Are the effects of maternal stress always harmful?

I think we tend to think of these exposures as bad. In much of our work, we're showing negative outcomes.

But there is another way to look at this, which is that your mother is giving you cues. She's very anxious that it's a dangerous world out there. In a risky environment, having an amygdala that's very reactive, a heart rate and stress response that are reactive — these are adaptations that could help survival.

But then, when a 6-year-old child goes to school, they're told, "You really need to sit down in your chair and focus," even though the classroom is very loud. That child has had early prenatal shaping to be super-alert in such an environment. It's a mismatch between the prenatal cues and the demands of the child's environment, so he or she may become anxious or have symptoms of ADHD.

Does any of this suggest that the mother may be to blame for a child's risk of ADHD?

I think it's really essential not to blame the mother. We have to be very aware that levels of stress and depression are typically two-fold higher amongst women in poverty. We have to recognize the social conditions that contribute to high levels of stress and depression — and, frankly, society has to take responsibility for that and address it through policy changes.

Should this affect how we care for the health of pregnant women?

Absolutely. Pregnancy is a time of tremendous psychological transition, not just biological change. It's a great time for screening the woman and the whole family, and making the statement that just as physical health matters, mental health matters too. How a woman is doing: That is the fetus's environment.

Routine screening for depression and anxiety are becoming part of prenatal practice, and we could be doing more of that. At a minimum, we could start taking seriously the idea that we have more than one patient.

There can be — and I think it's a deep concern — a privileging of the baby over the mother, at times. In high-risk pregnancies especially, the focus is so much on the fetus and what interventions can be done that there's less of a focus on the woman, who herself is likely having physical problems, not to mention emotional distress as well, in these contexts.

Some pregnant women want to make positive changes in their life, such as exercising more or getting help coping with past emotional trauma, for their baby's sake. Others might say their mental health matters to them as individuals, not just because they're carrying a baby. We, as clinicians, should be caring for a woman's mental health even if she isn't pregnant. And we should also realize that when we care for her when she is pregnant, we're caring for her future child as well.

This article originally appeared in Knowable Magazine, an independent journalistic endeavor from Annual Reviews. 

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Health : How to improve mental health through fitness



From regular walks to workouts or team sports, there are all kinds of activities that can help anxiety and depression. Here’s how to get started

- Sirin Kale

When you are struggling with your mental health, getting active may be one of the last things you feel like doing. But if you can muster the energy, evidence shows that exercise has a powerfully beneficial effect. One 2019 study, published in JAMA Psychiatry, found that physical activity is an effective prevention strategy for depression. Another 2015 paper found that exercise can be as helpful in treating mild to moderate depression as antidepressants and psychotherapy.

“We have known for a long time that exercise promotes physiological and neurochemical responses that make you feel good,” says Prof Nanette Mutrie of the University of Edinburgh’s Institute for Sport, Physical Education and Health Sciences. When we exercise, the brain releases endorphins, as well as dopamine and serotonin. “Very often, these same chemicals form part of antidepressant drugs,” she says.


There is also a psychological component to exercise that makes us feel good, says Mutrie. “When you’re exercising, you are improving your self-esteem, mastering a new task and meeting new people. All of this forms part of the mix. There’s this synergy of positive things that is happening.”

If you are struggling with your mental health and are anxious about exercise, the best advice is to start small. “Your goals should be really achievable,” advises Sarah Overall, a London-based personal trainer who is qualified to take referrals from the NHS. “Take it slowly and be proud of every step you take.” She also says you will have setbacks along the way and shouldn’t feel discouraged. “Fitness isn’t linear,” she says. “You can go for a run one day and feel OK, and the next time feel rubbish.” She suggests exercising with a trusted friend, so that you have someone to check in with if you are feeling anxious.

Mutrie suggests a simple walking programme. “Aim to increase the amount you are walking over the course of a month. Start with walking for 10 minutes a day and gradually up it.” Most smartphones now have pedometers, so you can track your steps: 7,000 steps a day is a good target to set yourself, with the aim of eventually increasing it to the government recommendation of 10,000 steps daily.

Running can be a great way of improving your self-esteem – but take it slowly at first. 

Jermaine Johnson, another personal trainer who often trains clients with depression and anxiety, suggests avoiding cardio. “That can raise the heart rate and fuel your anxiety,” he says. Instead, he suggests that you try strength training. “I’ve trained people with depression who’ve said weightlifting made a big difference.” Because you can measure your progress with weight training – heavier weights or more repetitions – you will be able to see how much you are improving, which could lift your mood.

You don’t have to exercise all the time. “If you want to optimise your exercise regime for your mental health, according to our research, exercising for 45 minutes at a time, three to five times a week, has the most beneficial mental health effects,” says Dr Adam Chekroud of Yale School of Medicine. He is the co-author of one of the biggest studies into exercise and mental health, which looked at 1.2 million adults in the US. He says that cycling and team sports will give you the biggest boost, but even walking or doing household chores are better than nothing.

It’s a good idea to pick times when gyms are less busy, so you won’t feel like you are being watched. “Speak to the gym manager and ask them about their quiet times and quiet areas,” Overall says. If you’re able to slip away from work, gyms are generally quiet in the mid-afternoon. Plus, you won’t have to drag yourself out of bed at the crack of dawn. “If it’s dark or rainy, it can be hard to get up early, especially if you’re struggling with depression,” she says.

Just being in nature has also been shown to have beneficial mental health effects. “You need sunlight for vitamin D, and vitamin D lifts your mood,” says Overall. Look for a Green Gym near you: these free, conservation-based workouts are a great way to meet people in your local area, if you’re feeling lonely; sign up and you could be planting trees or sowing seeds alongside other participants. Beyond that, the mental health charity Mind has a directory of fitness classes and other outdoor activities on its website(mind.org.uk), many of which are free.

If you feel up to being around other people, group exercise can help. “When it comes to depression or stress, these conditions have a biological underpinning, but they also have social components,” Chekroud says. The sense of community you feel as part of a sports team can have a brightening effect on your mood. “It takes the attention away from the individual person,” says Johnson. And if you end up feeling overwhelmed or anxious in the class, it is fine to leave early. “You always have the option to leave. I’ve had people who’ve walked out of my classes,” he says. “That’s fine.” If you’re feeling very anxious before a class, give the trainer a heads-up that you’re not feeling great, and might slip out early – and pick a spot near the door for minimum fuss.

Johnson recommends starting with a yoga or a barre class, rather than a circuits class, as often these involve partner-work, which can be difficult for those with social anxiety. Whatever you are doing, pick a beginner’s class: now is not the time to throw yourself into Bikram yoga. “If a class is too intense, you’re going to feel like you’re doing badly, and you may end up feeling worse than you did when you arrived,” Johnson says. “That is definitely not the goal.”

Anyone struggling with body dysmorphia “should avoid gyms, as they are full of mirrors”, says Overall. “Instead, take things outside if you can.” Try jogging or doing a high-intensity interval training workout in the park. If you are in recovery from an eating disorder, Overall recommends creating an exercise plan under the supervision of a mental health professional, to avoid overdoing it. “Otherwise, it’s like an alcoholic going back in a pub. It’s got to be carefully managed.”

If you don’t feel as if you can leave your house, there are plenty of fitness videos online that you can do at home. If you can afford a personal trainer, look for one who has an exercise referral qualification, meaning they are accredited to work with the NHS. Explain your mental health challenges to them and have them tailor an appropriate programme; speak to your doctor to ensure your workout is medically safe.

When you are exercising, it is absolutely fine to take a break, or stop entirely, if you are feeling overwhelmed. “Don’t feel like you have failed because you had to stop,” says Overall. When you are struggling with your mental health, it is easy to get trapped in a spiral of negative thoughts and think that everyone in your gym is watching you. But they are almost certainly not, says Johnson. “Ninety per cent of the time, people aren’t thinking about you – they’re focusing on their own workout.”

Finally, the act of putting on a pair of trainers can, on its own, be a form of self-care. “Even if you leave after a few minutes, you’ve already achieved something just by going to the gym,” says Johnson. Focus on the fact that you went to the gym in the first place, not that you left. And take everything one step at a time. You’re in control.

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Wednesday, 27 November 2019

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Are we looking for happiness in all the wrong places?



 by Susan Bell,University of Southern California


The difference in mood between people who slept six hours or less, versus seven hours or more, was equivalent to earning $30,000 a year versus $90,000 a year, USC Dornsife’s Arthur Stone found. Credit: Dennis Lan for USC Dornsife Magazine

If only we could win millions on the lottery—or failing that, at least convince our boss to give us a massive raise. And then, if we could just meet the love of our life on that new dating app, we could Instagram our perfect, exotic honeymoon pictures to all our friends and followers and then, maybe, just maybe, we could be truly happy.

Scholars who study human happiness might well quibble with those common aspirations. Research shows thatadditional income, dating apps andsocial media don't necessarily bring us the joy we think they will.

One of the major misconceptions of happiness is income, notes USC Dornsife's Norbert Schwarz, Provost Professor of Psychology and Marketing.

"Everybody wants higher income and is willing to do quite a bit for that. In reality, income makes much less of a difference than we usually expect," Schwarz says. "When you are poor, earning more money is very beneficial, but once needs are met, making more and more adds ever less to one's well-being.

"You don't need a lot of luxury to feel good as you go through your day," he adds. "And many high-income jobs come with long hours and high stress, which makes the day less enjoyable."

In fact, the relationship between income and life satisfaction, he notes, is relatively minor, with income explaining only about 4 percent of the variation in people's evaluation of their life as a whole and even less in how they feel moment to moment.

Sweet Dreams

Other variables play a far greater role in improving day-to-day mood. For instance, one big factor in how you'll feel tomorrow is how well you sleep tonight, Schwarz says. In a 2004 study, Schwarz and USC Dornsife Professor of Psychology, Economics and Health Policy and Management Arthur Stone found that the difference in mood between people who slept six hours or less, versus seven hours or more, was equivalent to earning $30,000 a year versus $90,000 a year.

"If you told most people, 'You can increase your income by $60,000 if you're willing to drive a bit longer to work, but you'll have to sleep an hour less,' most people would leap at the chance," Schwarz says. "But in terms of how they feel as they go through their day, they would actually be better off getting a good night's sleep."

Happiness Over Time

Indeed, when it comes to income and happiness, it's a mixed picture, says University Professor Emeritus of Economics Richard Easterlin, creator of the so-called Easterlin Paradox.

His paradox states that if we look at any given point of time, on average people who have more income are happier. However, this finding is contradicted by time series data, which follows people's happiness over a length of time as their income increases.

"It's the time series relationship that's relevant to questions like, 'Would more money make me happy?'" Easterlin notes. "Because you're thinking what's going to happen over time as you get more money, will you become happier? And the answer to that is quite consistently 'no.'"

A Question of Comparison

This seems counterintuitive, but Easterlin explains that it's all down to a psychological concept called "social comparison." To illustrate how this works, he would ask students whether they would prefer their income to increase by $100,000 or by $50,000.

Next, Easterlin put two situations to his students. In the first, their income increases by $100,000, but everybody else's goes up $200,000. In the second option, their income increases by $50,000, but everybody else's goes up $25,000.

"Two thirds of my class, when I used to teach this, would shift to the second option," Easterlin notes. "They opted for less income for themselves if it was more than others were getting."

When we evaluate our happiness, he explains, we have a comparison or reference level, a benchmark against which we judge the amount of income we get.

"We make judgments about our own income based upon what others are getting, and if others are doing a lot better than us, we tend to be less happy," Easterlin says.

So, while it is true that higher income and greater happiness do go together if we drill down to a specific point in time, once we look at the relationship between income and happiness over a period of time, then we see a very different picture—one in which higher income does not bring more happiness.

"Over time, what's happening is that the incomes of others with whom you compare yourself are going up on average to the same extent as your income goes up. So, you're no happier," Easterlin explains. "The increase in your own income by itself will make you happier. The increase in others' incomes by itself, if yours didn't change, would make you less happy. But what happens in practice is that, on average, as your income goes up, everybody else's goes up, and the result is that nobody is happier."

Diminishing Returns

A 2010 study by Nobel laureate and USC Dornsife Presidential Professor of Economics Sir Angus Deaton, co-authored with psychologist and Nobel Prize winner Daniel Kahneman, found that emotional well-being increases with money but only up to an income of about $75,000 per annum—enough to cover the basic necessities. Any amount on top of that won't make a huge difference to happiness. While more money does appear to increase satisfaction with your life, when it comes to improving day-to-day emotional well-being, money generates diminishing returns.

Credit: Dennis Lan for USC Dornsife Magazine

As Deaton and Kahneman wrote in the study, "We conclude that high income buys life satisfaction but not happiness."

Easterlin argues that what we consider to be enough money to live happily changes over time.

"What we would like to have increases with what we're able to have, and what we consider to be the essentials of a decent or good or a happy life is not a fixed amount, it's variable," Easterlin notes.

Easterlin sums up the problem by citing a favorite quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson: "Want is a growing giant whom the coat of Have was never large enough to cover."

However, Easterlin refutes the idea that we're necessarily discontented. Most people are happy, he says. "It's just that where they think that more money will make them even happier, it does not.

Love Not Money?

So, if more money isn't going to make us happier over time, perhaps finding true love could be the answer.

While the joy we find in our relationships has always depended on a whole host of variables, the way we are searching for love has undergone a revolution in the last decade as more and more of us are turning to dating apps in the eternal human quest for love and romance.

USC Dornsife's Julie Albright, a sociologist specializing in digital culture and communications, says the ways we now look for love in the eerie digital world of retouched selfies, "breadcrumbing," "catfishing" and "ghosting" are affecting us more deeply than we realize, impacting our relationships, our health—and, yes—even our well-being.

The Loneliness Paradox

While we may believe that online dating will allow us to banish loneliness once and for all, Albright's book, Left to Their Own Devices: How Digital Natives are Reshaping the American Dream (Prometheus Books, 2019), argues that online dating can, in fact, do just the opposite, resulting in increased feelings of isolation.

Dating apps promote the idea that we have endless choice. Why commit, the thinking goes, when someone better might come along? The problem with that approach, Albright argues, is that people who don't choose will end up lonely because they're not committing to building a relationship.

Traditions like marriage or buying a home, she says, provide a guiding North Star by which people can navigate their lives. Now, young digital natives, hyper-attached to digital technologies and no longer choosing commitment and marriage, are unhooking from traditional social structures and are cast adrift—a process Albright, a lecturer in the Department of Psychology, calls "coming untethered."

A young man couldn't try to pick up 300 women in one night at a bar, she says, but by using a dating app, he can easily throw out a thousand hooks and get 300 bites.

"Taking the endgame out of courtship changes the dynamic of what dating is about. If you're just dating in a constant churn, there's no future and no hope on the horizon," she said. "Instead, it becomes all about experience."

This leads to heightened levels of loneliness or anxiety, as paradoxically, instead of becoming more connected, we become increasingly separated from one another by using our devices.

Kicking the Habit

Even if we know online dating is making us depressed, it's not easy to stop, Albright notes. She compares using dating apps to playing one-armed bandits in Las Vegas. "Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose, and that's why you keep going back for more," she says.

And that's not all. Dating apps and social media also fuel a narcissistic desire for attention, satisfying primitive psychological needs for attention, affirmation and validation.

"People can get very hooked on that," she says.

So how do we find true love and happiness in this lonely, addictive digital world?

Albright's advice rings as true as it is simple: Switch off your phone.

"Spend time together, get to know each other, look into each other's eyes and make building that relationship a sacred space," she says, adding: "Just make sure it's without the intrusion of a device."

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Saturday, 23 November 2019

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For a Longer, Healthier Life, Train Your Brain to be Realistically Optimistic



For a Longer, Healthier Life, Train Your Brain to be Realistically Optimistic
Looking on the bright side of life could help you live longer, according to research

By Thomas Oppong, Founder of Alltopstartups

Never underestimate the power of expecting good things to happen in your life. It’s been linked to long life.

After decades of research, a new study published in Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, — based on survey data collected from 69,744 women and 1,429 men) links optimism and prolonged life.

“A lot of evidence suggests that exceptional longevity is usually accompanied by a longer span of good health and living without disability, so our findings raise an exciting possibility that we may be able to promote healthy and resilient ageing by cultivating psychosocial assets such as optimism,” said Lewina Lee, the lead author of the study at Boston University School of Medicine.

Previous studies have also found people who see the glass half full are not only happier, they are also healthier and wealthier. They have a lower chance of dying prematurely from stroke, heart disease and even cancer.

The researchers also consider that more optimistic people tend to have healthier habits such as being more likely to engage in more exercise and less likely to smoke, which could extend lifespan.

The study highlighted the importance of psychological wellbeing alongside physical wellbeing for living a long and healthy life, said Dr Catherine Hurt, an expert in health psychology at City, University of London.

“The results suggest that as well as educating and encouraging people to eat a balanced diet and exercise regularly to maximise longevity we should also be promoting psychological wellbeing and the importance of optimism,” she said. “An optimistic outlook appears to be a key part of a healthy lifestyle.”

Apart from embracing healthy lifestyles, optimistic are less likely to blame themselves when bad things happen. Psychologists call it “explanatory style” — a psychological attribute that indicates how people explain to themselves why they experience a particular event, either positive or negative.

Some people tend to quickly say about their misfortunes, “It’s me, it’s going to last forever and it’s going to ruin my life.” That is the rationale of a pessimist.

An optimist will explain their misfortune differently: “It was just the circumstances. It was bad timing, choice, luck etc. It’s going away quickly, and there’s a lot going well in my life at the moment.” A setback doesn’t become an end in itself, but a setup for better things in life.

They don’t keep thinking about everything wrong with them or what could potentially happen because of the negative information. They see obstacles as temporary, opportunities for good things to happen in the future and a good time to build resilience.

Optimists believe they have total control over their fate.

People who are more optimistic are also more likely to form social connections because they see the good and best in people. They build better relationships with others and can inspire the best in those around them.

Persimistists, on the other hand, believe the worst is never over. They can’t stop frightening themselves with what can go wrong. Pessimists are not only unhappy, they believe calm and happiness are illusions — they are always unhappy that they’re unhappy. This state of mind becomes a cycle.

This mindset propels them into yet worse disappointments. They are in a constant state of worry even when they experience good things, they don’t stop to appreciate the good news in their lives.

“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty,” said Winston Churchill.

Without intervention, pessimists spend the greater part of their existence expecting the worst. This drains the life out of them.

Optimists don’t necessarily ignore life’s stressors. They deal with them better. Being optimistic a mindset. Good and bad things are bound to happen at some point in your life. The most important thing is knowing what to think when you receive or come across bad news.

Optimistic people are able to regulate their emotions and behaviour as well as bounce back from stressors and difficulties more effectively.

If you tend to worry too much about the stresses in your life, it’s not too late to change your mindset. You can choose to be optimistic in the face of negative information.

“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely,” says Roy T. Bennett.

You can actually train your brain to look on the bright side of life.

One of the simplest and effective ways to train your brain to be more optimist is to imagine your best possible self. This approach, according to The Journal of Positive Psychologyis called the “Best Possible Self” method.

This intervention encourages pessimists to make time and imagine themselves in a future in which they have achieved all their life goals and all of their problems have been resolved. One technique, for example, is to write for just 10 minutes a day about a future day in your life in which you have accomplished what you want and how that feels.

In a study, students practised the Best Possible Self exercise for 15 minutes a week for eight weeks. Not only did they feel more positive, but the feelings also lasted for about six months.

Other habits like keeping a gratitude journal can help you focus on the good things happening in your life — the kind of appreciation that can foster a sense of optimism about your future.

Taking a few minutes each day to write down the best things happening in your life can improve your outlook, nurture your mind and break the typical negative thinking style.

Forcing yourself to look for the good things, and positive comments teach your brain that you can both avoid negative and also seek positive.

Originally published on Medium.


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Tuesday, 19 November 2019

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Video: Onos Ariyo – Glorify Emmanuel



Onos Ariyo releases the Official Video for Glorify Emanuel (Live)
Celebrated gospel music minister Onos Ariyo has released the live performance video for the now trending song Glorify Emmanuel. The song which is off her recently released album Breathe is set to be another addition to her plethora of hit songs.
The video was recorded live at the Lagos Edition of the Breathe Concert which held at the Land Mark event centre in Oniru, Lagos.
Glorify Emmanuel is a powerful spirit field song borne of the place of deep worship and prayer, the song features a little of the Urhobo language of the Niger Delta and English.
Earlier in the year, Onos released the video of the sensational worship song “Your Name ”directed by Frizzle and Brizzle. She subsequently recorded a reprise featuring American gospel music singer Jekalyn Carr who was also the guest artist at the Breathe Lagos concert.
The Breathe tour has been held in Lagos Nigeria, Accra Ghana, and Edmonton and Calgary in Canada and come December 11th 2019, the Breathe tour train will be at Yaounde Cameroon.  According to songstress, “The tour continues in 2020”.
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Tuesday, 12 November 2019

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NEW MUSIC : BRODA MOSE - HALLELUJAH @brodamose


Growing gospel singer and writer, Broda Mose releases a brand new single titled HALLELUJAH. Drawn from the depth of personal devotion and meditation, the song HALLELUJAH reflects a heart of gratitude for the manifold grace and goodness of God to His children and humanity.

HALLELUJAH is thus a true confession of faith to those whose victory have been secured in the Lord Jesus Christ

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Tuesday, 5 November 2019

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New Music: Preye Odede Teams Up With Tim Godfrey For “Done Me Well” (LIVE)

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Definitely one of the biggest collaborations this year! The anticipated new single “Done me Well” by Gospel music minister Preye Odede, featuring the sensational Tim Godfrey is finally out for streaming and download!
“Done Me Well” is a testimony. It is groovy with Afrocentric percussion. The tone and move is festive creating an atmosphere of joy, rejoicing and reassuring the listeners of God’s faithfulness in the midst of challenges.
Preye Odede and Tim Godfrey took turns to testify with melody, mildly touching on milestones each minister has surpassed through the grace of God. They enjoin the listeners to partake leveraging on repetitive chants and physical activities. If you ever need an inspiring feel-good-song, this is it!
The release of the single is accompanied with the live performance clip from the just concluded concert by Preye Odede in Ghana, tagged #THEMOVE. You missed that? Look forward to the live ministration of “Done Me Well,” and others as Preye Odede takes The Experience stage this 2019, for the first time!
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Thursday, 31 October 2019

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NEW MUSIC | LYRICS : DARE POP - JESU @darepopofficial

The Lord gave me this powerful easy to know song, when I was in my personal prayer altar.
I went to record it immediately as instructed by the Holy Spirit and it has been a sound of blessing and power to burn for more....
I was instructed to share the song with everyone on earth in other to be a blessing to my generation.
Do you want to pray, fellowship, worship or tarry more in God's presence?
Then download it, listen to it and be blessed. You can also share the link to be a blessing to your friends or someone somewhere.

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• JESU by DARE POP
LYRICS

ORUKO NLA
ORUKO NLA
OLORUKO IDAHUN AYO
JESU
ORUKO NLA
ORUKO NLA
OLORUKO IDAHUN AYO
JESU
JESU JESU JESU JESU
JESU JESU
OLORUKO IDAHUN AYO
JESU
Interlude
JESU JESU JESU MI JESU
IWO LO GBAMI LA
JESU
OLORUKO IDAHUN AYO
JESU
OLORUKO IDAHUN AYO
JESU 2XCE
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Saturday, 26 October 2019

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NEW SONG : GOD BOY ( MAYOWA AYEGBUSI - HALLELUYAH) @amgodboy


New hit song from Gospel new artist on the block "GOD BOY (Mayowa Ayegbusi)"
titled "HALLELUYAH"
Mayowa AYEGBUSI aka GODBOY born in Ekiti and raised in Ibadan to the family of Pastor and Pastor Mrs. AYEGBUSI, he is music minster, worship and praise leader with a message to sing the Beauty of GOD.

 *The upbeat praise song will surely get you dancing and praising God.

For God is good and he is kind - I will sing Halleluyah
And he has given me victory - I will sing Halleluyah
For the wall of Jericho to fall down flat - I will sing Halleluyah
Si Oba ton se gudugudu meje yaya mefa - Halleluyah
Baba agba arugbo ojo - Halleluyah
Afuye gege ti ose e gbe - Halleluyah
Oba ton bo ni ni asiri - Halleluyah

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Wednesday, 9 October 2019

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How to quit smoking




Tobacco smoking has been around for thousands of years and, before its dangers were known about, doctors often recommended it to patients to help clear their lungs (this was in the good old days when doctors used to smoke their pipes while doing their rounds in hospitals).

Now we know there is no question smoking is bad for you. There is a whole list of diseases associated with smoking: the top three are lung cancer, chronic lung disease and heart disease, but less talked about are mouth cancer, hair loss, infertility, and impotence.

The good news is fewer people are smoking. Through public health policies (tax on cigarettes, advertising and banning smoking indoors), rates of smoking are down, with most recent estimates in the UK at 15% of the population in 2017.

But plenty of people still smoke. If it is so bad for you (and we know it’s so bad for us), why is it so hard to stop?


It’s important to remember that nicotine, the addictive substance in cigarettes, triggers the production of dopamine in the brain, which plays a key role in addiction in humans. Without going into too much detail, nicotine is one of the most addictive substances known to man, and is thought to be as addictive as some class A drugs.

While nicotine keeps us hooked, it’s the tar (and other chemicals) in cigarettes that is thought to cause cancer: it damages our DNA, as well as clogging up important blood vessels, which can lead to heart attacks and strokes.

Patients who come to their GP for help to quit are in no doubt their daily habit is a potentially deadly one. They often want to stop because they dislike the habit and can feel the toll on their breathing and lungs.

How do I give up?
The first thing is to recognise that smoking is not just about the nicotine. Think of it like a cluster of habits rather than a single one. This is definitely a factor that makes it more difficult to quit. Some patients tell me that smoking structures their day and even gives it a certain meaning. If you’re a smoker, think about when you smoke and why. Do you smoke first thing in the morning, with your first cup of coffee? After meals? Or when you can’t stare at your screen for another minute and need a break, perhaps when something/someone stresses you out? Apart from this, smokers also enjoy the other components of smoking, including holding cigarettes, inhaling and the taste. Cigarettes become companions in our daily routines. We think they help us cope.


There are a number of available approaches to giving up, but the multi-faceted aspect of cigarette addiction means that often the best ones focus on behavioural change. These include smoking cessation groups, hypnotherapy, traditional therapy, and text message advice. This is in addition to nicotine-therapy, particularly in the beginning of the process. Your GP can offer lots of support and provide you with resources. There are other ancillary methods with reported success, including creating a support group for yourself of friends and family members. Alternatively, calculate how much money you will save from not smoking and put that money aside each day. Then dedicate it to a special gift or project for yourself.

Be kind
Perhaps the most important thing to remember when quitting cigarettes is to be patient and kind with yourself. As with any lifestyle change, it’s going to take time, and there will be ups and downs. Most people who quit try more than once before they are finally able to stop for good. Excessively high expectations can lead to disappointment.

Should I vape instead?
There has been a huge rise in e-cigarette and vape use because of the misconception that it is a better alternative to "traditional smoking". Recent data has shown the dramatic rise in vaping by young people, driven by the belief that it is less harmful than smoking cigarettes, the fact its much cheaper, and the use of cannabinoid (both CBD and THC) products in e-cigarettes.


However, recent reports in the US have shown the damage that vaping can cause including deaths, after nearly 100 cases of hospitalisation due to severe lung disease and 500 cases of lung damage across the country. This has led to California becoming the first state in the US to issue a firm public health warning to stop vaping and a ban on the sale of e-cigarettes in San Francisco. While vaping is a relatively new phenomenon, it is still harmful to the body, particularly the lungs, and the long-term effects remain unknown.


Smoking is still bad and attempts to give up should focus on both the physical and mental elements of it. Switching to vaping may be slightly better for a current smoker but be aware it has its own health risks and pitfalls. If you want to give up, there are a number of resources available, including talking to your GP, support groups and online services
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